Bleh...

[my_thestral]

One of those dreadful weeks again - the little one is still ill, vomiting for nearly a week now, so we went back to the doctor and we're hopeful he'll be better by Wednesday, when he has his 7th birthday. The bed we ordered for him as a present 10 days ago is still not here, so I shouted at the shop assistant today and I blackmailed him into free delivery if the bed is not here by Wednesday - it's only good customer service, in this Slytherin opinion. ;)

I went to pick up son no.1 today at school only to find him shouting hysterically - apparently he had gotten in a fight with five other boys, broke up their ice sculpture and smacked a boy - an innocent bystander at that - in the mouth and gave him a split lip. His father was absolutely livid when he phoned the school, apparently. How will this impulse-driven Asperger son of mine ever avoid jail in the future, it's anyone's guess. *sigh* We try to explain the working of the system to him - if he becomes uncontrollably or too impulsively violent, he's going to end up institutionalised one way or another - and there won't be a damn thing I can do about that once he grows up. Not a very optimistic thought, I reckon. :(

In fandom/Lj related news: after digthewriter 's post about LJ no longer sending out friend notifications, I went to check out mine, just to discover that I have 3 new friends I never added back. :( That was immediately rectified, however it's hard not to feel a complete and utter idiot after that, so dear new friends, here are my profound apologies. (And a kick in the butt to you, LJ!) Because of the younger son's illness I'm also awfully behind on my Ron/Draco entry - it's literally been going nowhere lately, so I hope I can pull it together in time - if this prolonged stay at home continues for much longer, I might have to ask for extension (hopefully, I won't embarrass myself completely and drop out).

I haven't watched the Inauguration, but the first moves of The Orange One is taking are not promising: Withdrawing from Trans-pacific partnership or the proposed bill to pull the USA out of the United Nations - not to mention the monstrosity that is The global gag rule he just re-instated - now, these developments are not something that fills me with optimism - but then again the Dutch are more than up to the job of cheering me up with this "welcome" to the most megalomanic president ever - it made me giggle out loud and because it has English subtitles, you'll be able to enjoy it as well. :) I suppose as long as there is humour in this world, there is some hope left. Never mind the gloomy ol' me, I'll get over myself. :)

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[themightyflynn]

You know, I've had a few days recently where smacking some idiot in the mouth nearly became an option as well!
But, yes, having him react that way as a first response is never good. I have a feeling that my Asperger-having cousin is heading the same way. He's about 10 years older than yours, though, so he'll make it there fist! *sigh*

I checked mine and I only had one who I needed to friend back. But I have discovered that if you go to the profile of one of your friends, you can see a button titled "Modify Friend". If you click it, it takes you to the settings for that friend. From there you can check the notification thingy for birthdays if you're not getting them. Hopefully it will work, because I haven't gotten any bday notifications on here for months now. Kerrilee75's bday is in a few days, so I'll get to see whether that worked or not.

I am, as much as possible, completely ignoring anything political-related. Unless it's a certain friend on facebook who continues to post complete bullsh*t, in which case, I've been posting Snopes articles beneath his posts! :D I'm expecting to not be his friend on there for very long!

Hope your day is going well! :)

[my_thestral]

Well, to be honest, I was a bit of a wild one as well when I was my son's age (I broke a chair on someone's back but it was a wobbly chair and he totally had it coming, the bastard! LOL... I'm beginning to see the pattern) - but these are different times. If I came home with a split lip, my parents didn't even bother asking where I got it because they knew that the other person probably fared much worse. Today's parents are much more sensitive to their kids' well-being and that's not necessarily a bad thing, it just puts a person like my son in a position where he will eventually have to learn that actions like these can have serious consequences. Well, there are always pills for kids with autism...*sigh* I was hoping I'll have to use them when he's in puberty, but the way it looks right now, I'll have to start earlier. :P

I think the b-days are in person's profiles, for those who put them there, so I'll take some time one of these days and just write them out. I've got like, 20+ friends, it shouldn't take me long. :)

I'm politically engaged, to be honest, but not by belonging to any party, but by speaking out for things that interest me and my rights and my well-being. Because if you don't speak out, you can't say you've done all you can to make a stand for what you believe in. I'm a pretty passionate person and that extends to all areas of my life. I get smacked over the gob - figuratively, of course - for such attitude sometimes, and I can't say that sometimes I don't deserve it. But I believe in speaking out and staying informed. :)

Since my son's a bit better and will probably be going back to school tomorrow - I'm splendid! :D

[capitu]

Oh no! :( I'm sorry your little one is still so sick. And we were so hopeful he'd be fine by Friday, no? *pets him AND you*

I'm sorry about your older one getting into a fight. *all the hugs*

I haven't got all the notifications. Like, I got some but not all and now I don't know how many people adding me I've missed. :( I'll have to make my own post about this. LJ sucks.

[my_thestral]

It's really been a stressful week, but it's mostly over now. With some luck, the little one is going back to school tomorrow - just in time for his b-day, yey, his father will be packing candy all evening! :)

And thanks to the really cool teachers in my son's school the thing with the injured boy will probably not escalate further - though the thought of "next time" scares me, to be honest. :/ Still, this is not something that can be rectified by worrying about it, so I tend to deal with things as they come. *gratefully accepts the hugs*

I'm seriously considering making dreamwidth my real home if this bullshit at LJ keeps up - no b-day and friending notifications - it's hard not to look and feel an asshole, though I have a feeling that it's objectively not my fault. I relied on Lj, but at least when it comes to b-days, this is something I can fix - I will just go through all my 20+ friends' profiles and write out b-days on my calendar, so LJ can be lazy all it wants to be. :P Not an optimal solution, but still... a natural born complainer that I am, I already complained to LJ and I told them that I hope I'm not too arrogant for expecting a reply, LOL! :) In all honesty, I don't expect one, but if they fix the issue, that will be the best answer that is. *sends big hugs your way*

[capitu]

Worrying probably doesn't help, but I know it also can't be helped. Seriously, all the hugs. <3

I'm totally with you! I relied on LJ's notifications for so much, and now they just gone with no reason, so lame. Totally not your fault! I wish I'd remember on my own all my LJ buddies' birthday but it's just hard realistically speaking. I saved a doc with all the birthday dates so now it's on me to check that list, and I hope I can keep up but it's easy to forget, and it doesn't mean you don't care, but in your day to day life there's usually a lot going on. I hope they reply, maybe I should complain as well. ^^

[sabethea.livejournal.com]

Gah, I'm sorry about the family stuff :( How old is son #1 again? It may just take him longer to learn, I guess, given the Aspergers - a friend of mine ended up having a breakdown around the age of 14-15 before zie learned how to control hir problematic areas, but zie did manage. Obviously I hope #1 doesn't need to have a breakdown first, but maybe things will work out in time? *hug*

[my_thestral]

My older son is 10, nearly 11, and he's been having these problems for years. As an Asperger child he will have medications available to him, but I was hoping I could delay that for another few years, until he hits the puberty for real, because then the problems tend to escalate considerably. But with the rate he's going, I'm going to have to put him on pills prematurely if things keep going in this direction. There is literally zero filter from his explosive mind to his actions. To be honest, we're all quite temperamental, but as an adult you are socialised enough to keep your more hot-headed impulses to yourself and act civilly - but he isn't, at least not yet.
It doesn't help, that he also has ADHD and dyspraxia, so his attention span is super-short, his attention is all over the place and he's not very good with motorics, so he finds it hard to establish himself and create some kind of status for himself among his peers. At least his brother is the complete opposite - he's 6 and he has girls fighting over him already, so there's that. :)
Thank you so much for your encouraging words, I know you've got your own problems galore so I really appreciate it! :)

[besamislabios]

I'm sorry about your sons. I hope your youngest gets to feel well on time for his bday party, and I'm sending you and your oldest all the hugs. ♥

What I'm missing most are the bday notifications. I don't think anybody has friended me lately... though i guess i wouldn't know. :/

[my_thestral]

Thank you for your good wishes! The little one is better now and will be going to school tomorrow for the first time after a week - just in time for his b-day! :) He understands about the bed not coming in on time, but I also bought him this sitting bag in blue: https://www.harveynorman.si/sedalna-vreca-fluffy-stars
He wouldn't have gotten it if the bed was here on time, but I feel silly not giving him a present on his b-day. I guess I just need an excuse to spoil him, LOL! :)
If you want to see if you have been friended, you can go in your own profile and if there's a difference in numbers between categories Friends and Friends of - it probably means someone has friended you without you friending them back. I've got 32 friends (including myself, LOL) in total, so it wasn't hard to figure out which ones I missed.
Hugs!

[besamislabios]

I'm glad he's feeling better. <3

my daughter has a similar bean bag, they're fun and comfy. :)

About the friending thing, I thought there was an easier way to found out. I'm not too worried though I get friended maybe once a year, lol, I'm usually the one friending and hoping to get friended back. :D

[nia_kantorka]

Sorry, darling, just saw your post. Hope the little one is doing better soon with his birthday coming up. Not sure what to do about your older one. You and the bf probably know best if he should be put on meds or not.

I'm not much online because we've all got a cold here. That's why I've been and probably will be Mia for a while.

*many hugs and kisses to you*

[my_thestral]

The little one has been fully restored and is going back to school tomorrow to distribute bags with candy (a Dutch tradition requires that the person celebrating treat friends) but I'm going to take him out early, so he doesn't exhaust himself too much.
Actually, I'm no expert, so I have no idea what the pills would do to him, but if his behaviour continues with this pattern, I might not have a choice. I'll try the smallest dosage first and then watch for the effect - I, and the rest of the world, can't keep up with this type of behaviour. Still... medicating your own child at such a young age sounds fundamentally wrong to me, I can't help it. But I'll do it if that's one last option - still better than he hurts someone seriously.
Poor you! I hope you and yours get better soon, darling! *sends lots of hugs and good energy*